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MY DEEPEST APOLOGIES


I have taken time to reflect on recent events and how I inappropriately expressed myself. I considered trying to further explain “why I said what I said” or “did what I did” but time and reflection have helped me realize the reasons do not matter. What matters is that I caused harm, and for that I am extremely remorseful.

To Cassie (Let’s Get Galactic): I’m sorry I didn’t see how I was hurting you (and by extension, others who came forward) by asking the questions I did. I see now how it made you feel and I understand why. I am ashamed it took me so long to recognize it, but I do now. I offer you my humble apologies with no buts or excuses attached. My intent did not matter, I should have done better.

To anyone else I’ve hurt in this, I also offer you my apologies. I got wrapped up—trying to clear up a situation that wasn’t mine to worry about—and in my defensive state, I reacted emotionally and said things I now realize could be interpreted as trying to defend the accused. Regardless of my intentions, it makes sense why people took it the way they did and I am sorry. In the future, I will listen better and choose my words more carefully.

To be totally clear: I firmly believe in, and support, a woman’s right to define her own boundaries. As such, I stand with those who have been sexually harassed, approached in creepy ways, etc., no matter what they decide to call it. I will no longer suggest people use one term over another. It wasn’t my place to do so and it won’t happen again. I see now, my concern with labeling the behavior was misplaced and hurtful.

I will be clearing my twitter and starting over fresh. This isn’t to hide the evidence of things I should have done differently, as I know those screenshots are out there. It is a symbolic gesture of having a clean slate that begins with this apology and better self-awareness. Again, my deepest apologies to all those affected. Thank you for reading.

Respectfully,

Kelli Owen


 

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A Public Statement on Recent Events


As a survivor of sexual abuse, I am a victim, and I will never side with a predator. But in today’s climate of society media justice and the whirlwind it can create, words are sometimes misused, allegations are mislabeled, and lives are ruined for shock value and the high of relevancy. I’ve seen innocents accused firsthand, I’ve also seen predators up close, too close—the span between them is vast and filled with shadowy hiding places.

My friend was accused of inappropriate behavior via texts. I have always (and will continue to) call out my own friends for bad behavior. That said, I believe victims, and this case was no different. But I needed to know if I should be expressing rage and disgust at said friend or if I was cutting him from my life, and so I asked a question. I believe in due diligence and giving a grievous accusation the amount of serious attention it warrants.

I do not condone abusive or predatory behavior. I do not approve of drunken missteps or apologetic boundary crossing. And I do not believe a knee-jerk reaction, or inflammatory response, to a serious matter gives either the victim or circumstance the respect it deserves.

If my wanting to take a moment to understand the facts offended people who misunderstood it as victim blaming, I’m truly sorry. I meant no malfeasance. My intentions held no malice. I simply wanted to avoid virtue signaling by blindly lighting a torch. As a victim and survivor of sexual abuse, I needed to know just how angry I should be with my friend.

As it stands, I am completely disgusted with him on many levels. I am appalled at his behavior, excuses, and subsequent lies. I know he can do better. I’ve watched him change and grow since the incidents last year, but he needs to do more, to continue that improvement.

I hope the public will not hold his actions against any of his associates, collaborators, or (and especially) his wife Anna and her publishing house, Poltergeist Press. In truth, I wish it had all come out sooner, to better allow the victims time to heal rather than losing a year hiding in fear of being ostracized or viewed as problematic, or worse, at fault.

My thoughts and opinions are distinctly my own, as are my experiences and scars. Regarding my departure from The Horror Show with Brian Keene, I agree it is for the best. I appreciate being included for a time and wish those still involved success going forward.

 

~ Kelli
June 2020
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